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Dating advice from DearHim

Start with the problem on your screen.

Bring one conversation, profile, concern or mixed signal. Each tool starts with observable evidence and keeps uncertainty visible.

Choose a starting point

Use one focused tool. You do not need an account to begin with a public dating question.

Decode his texts

Paste a labeled exchange for one grounded interpretation and a reply to adapt.

Open →Start with you

Your standards

Save your relationship goals, likes, wants and non-negotiables in the authenticated DearHim app.

Open →From a screenshot

Read the visible conversation

Extract text locally, review it, then choose whether to submit the cleaned exchange.

Open →Look at the pattern

Dating signals

Read observable patterns in effort, plans, boundaries, affection and follow-through.

Open →Name the concern

Red flag atlas

Compare a situation with concrete yellow, red and urgent patterns without diagnosing a person.

Open →Review your profile or his

Profile lab

Improve your own profile, or review his against the standards and selected-person context you saved in DearHim.

Browse by situation

More specific questions, organized by what happened.

Decode his texts

What he typed vs. what he meant — punctuation, emojis, and one-liners.

Decode his texts (start here)→What does “k” mean?→Left on read→Left on delivered→Reacts instead of replying→He sends a voice message→What the 👀 emoji means→Heart emoji meaning→A period at the end of a text→“haha” vs “lol”→What “wyd” means→What “hmu” means→Good morning text meaning→Goodnight text meaning→Pet names (babe, baby)→Beautiful vs hot vs cute→When he says “I miss you”→Typing and stopping→When he says “maybe”→When he asks for a picture→He stopped using emojis→One-word replies→“You're different”→Fire emoji 🔥 meaning→Smirk emoji 😏 meaning→Winky face 😉 meaning→He texts in all lowercase→What “...” means in a text→When he says “nvm”→When he says “idk”→Lots of exclamation points→He texts paragraphs→He uses your name in texts→Thumbs up 👍 meaning→Skull emoji 💀 meaning→When he just says “lol”→Upside-down 🙃 meaning→100 💯 emoji meaning→“lmao” vs “lol” vs “haha”→He sends you a selfie→

Is he interested?

Read the real signals — effort, initiation, and where you actually stand.

Is he interested?→He likes your old Instagram posts→He mirrors your texts→Likes me or wants attention?→Flirting or just being nice?→Is he hiding his feelings?→Is he losing interest?→He's giving mixed signals→He replies fast→He texts every day→He double texts you→He calls instead of texts→Texts but never asks me out→Is he serious about me?→Shy or not interested?→He asks about your day→“We should do this again”→Does he like you over text?→Into me or just bored?→He remembers small details→He wants to FaceTime→He asks if you're seeing anyone→He teases you→He introduces you to his friends→Saves your number with a nickname→Compliments your personality→Is he nervous around me?→He asks for your number→He texts you first→Does he like me or imagining it?→He opens up to you→Is he testing me?→He asks personal questions→

When he pulls away

Ghosting, breadcrumbing, silence, and the slow fade — decoded.

Is he ghosting me?→Is he breadcrumbing me?→He unmatched you→Left on open (Snapchat)→Why he suddenly stopped texting→Why he takes so long to reply→He texts then goes quiet→He stopped texting first→Online but not texting me→Busy or avoiding me?→Is he talking to someone else?→Snaps but doesn't text→Watches my story, won't text→Only texts when he's bored→Only texts late at night→When he comes back after ghosting→Texts you out of nowhere→Only texts once a week→Opens my snap, no reply→Replies to everyone but me→He suddenly seems distant→Ignores texts, likes posts→Acts different around his friends→Texts less than he used to→On read, then texts later→Cancels plans last minute→Disappears then comes back→Pulling away or overthinking?→Only wants to hang out late→Suddenly dry texts→Stopped replying mid-chat→Texts me then ignores me→He runs hot and cold→Is he stringing me along?→

What to text him

The exact reply for the moment — without losing your cool.

What to text after no reply→Should I double text?→Should I text him first?→How to respond to “hey”→How to text a guy you like→Keep a conversation going→Keep him interested over text→When he asks to hang out→When he finally texts back→How to take a compliment→How to text after a fight→How to handle a dry texter→When he drunk texts you→Tell him you like him→Respond to flirty texts→Restart a dead conversation→When he says he misses you→Make him text first→Respond to “I love you”→Start a conversation with him→Texting after a long silence→What to text him in the morning→What to text after a first date→Reply to his good morning text→Text him without seeming clingy→Get his attention back→When he apologizes→How to respond to “wyd”→When he leaves you on read→When he pulls away→Reply to a late night text→Make him want you over text→When he asks for a picture→After he ignored you→How to end a conversation→How to flirt over text→What to text him when he’s mad→

Define the relationship

Situationships, intentions, and getting the clarity you deserve.

Are we in a situationship?→Relationship or just a hookup?→“Not looking for anything serious”→Is he using me?→When he says he's confused→How to ask “what are we?”→When he says he needs space→“Let's keep it casual”→Is he emotionally available?→“I like you, but…”→He introduces you as his friend→“I'm not ready for a relationship”→“We need to talk”→Signs he wants a relationship→Is he seeing someone else?→He wants to take it slow→Is he boyfriend material?→

Your next move

Bring the conversation. Choose your next move.

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