“lol”
Conversation filler"lol" is often a placeholder when he has nothing to add. Don't carry the whole thread — ask something he can actually answer, or let it rest.
He's a dry texter.
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"lol", "hbu", "nm" — short replies don't always mean disinterest, but they tell you something. Paste the thread and I'll read it and write you a better response.
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“hbu”
Mild interest, zero effortHe's keeping it alive but making you do the work. Give a short, interesting answer — not a paragraph — and see if he steps up.
“nm, you?”
Low energy, slight openingThe "you?" is a small invitation. Offer something specific and a little playful instead of "nothing much" back at him.
Always dry, never asks anything
He's not investingIf you're always the one carrying it and he never asks about you, that's the real signal — not one dry word.
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More about dry texters.
What does it mean when a guy is a dry texter?
Some guys are just low-effort over text even when they're interested; others use dryness because they're not invested. The tell is whether he ever initiates or asks about you. DearHim reads the whole thread to tell which it is.
How do I respond to dry texts?
Don't overcompensate with long messages. Keep yours short, specific, and a little playful, then let him match your energy. I'll write you one to try.
Should I stop texting a dry texter?
If you're always carrying the conversation and he never invests, pulling back is reasonable. His response to your silence is informative.
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