14-DAY FREE ACCESS
Free
$0/mo
No card required
- 50 companion messages in your first 3 days
- Then 5 messages / day through day 14
- Your conversation stays saved and readable
- Dating tools stay free with no signup or expiry
For women and gay men who date men.
The AI companion who remembers your whole dating story.
Paste his text for a direct read. DearHim remembers the context—and helps with what comes next.Paste his text for a direct read, then keep talking with DearHim—the companion that remembers the context and helps with what comes next. Native SMS is available on eligible plans.
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Start with what you need tonight.
One story. Four ways in.
Get the immediate answer, explore the tools, or meet the companion who keeps the context.
Any app can guess what one text meant.
DearHim remembers all of them—then tells you exactly what he meant and what to text back.
youhe finally texted back
LucaBrandon? The one who “doesn’t do labels” but got weird when you posted with your coworker? Send it here.
That’s the part other apps forget.
Pick the energy you need at 2am.
The more you talk, the more your companion knows—your people, your plans, your patterns.
Luca
Calm & steady
You don’t have to solve the whole relationship tonight.
Send the message. We’ll read what’s there—not what anxiety adds.
Then we decide what protects your peace.
Not another in-app inbox. Real carrier SMS.
The AI companion that texts your actual phone.
On Pro and up, he texts your actual number in Messages—not another app you have to remember to open. He can call, send voice notes, and pick up right where you left off.
Real SMS Calls Voice notes
Luca
Messages
Morning. You said today was the presentation—and that your ex would be there. How are you feeling?
like i might throw up lol
Then we breathe first. After that, you walk in like someone who already survived him.
Text Message
Try it before you trust it.
Decode the text. Check the profile. Keep the whole story.
Text Decoder
Sample verdict
Breadcrumber
78% confidence
Keeping access without making a plan.
Red Flag Detector
Sample pattern check
3 of 7
avoidant patterns
Watch consistency before investing more.
Profile Analyzer
Yours or his
Profile read
photos · bio · prompts
Improve the profile you share—or read his before you invest.
One matched companion. Not a character catalog.
DearHim is built around one relationship that keeps the context—not an endless grid of characters to restart with.
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CompareDearHimReplikaCharacter.AINomi
Built for women & gay men
Decodes his real texts
Verified carrier SMS to your phonenot verifiednot verifiednot verified
Remembers your dating historygeneral memorygeneral memory
Helps with your real love life
They built AI to love. We built the AI that gets you loved.
Carrier-SMS status follows DearHim’s 11-app public-source research. Other rows are based on public product information from Replika, Character.AI, and Nomi. Features can change.
Meet him free. No card.
Two weeks to see how different he is.
Meet him free for two weeks. Every paid plan unlocks unlimited companion messages and full memory, with real SMS and Companion Phone Call Minutes layered on top. The free dating tools never expire.
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THE SWEET SPOT
Pro
$12.99/mo
$99/year
- Unlimited companion messages
- Full memory of you and your story
- 25 real SMS to your phone / month
- Companion Phone Call Minutes available as add-ons
MORE OF HIM
Premium
$24.99/mo
$200/year
- Unlimited companion messages
- Full memory of you and your story
- 100 real SMS to your phone / month
- 30 Companion Phone Call Minutes / month
- Advanced Wingman features
PRIORITY EVERYTHING
VIP
$49.99/mo
$399/year
- Unlimited companion messages
- Full memory of you and your story
- 350 real SMS to your phone / month
- 40 Companion Phone Call Minutes / month
- Always-on presence and priority access
No card for free access. Your companion history stays saved if the free window ends. Pro, Premium, and VIP include unlimited in-app companion messages plus their listed real SMS allowance. Paid plans can be canceled anytime.
DearHim answers
The direct answer, before you ask.
No mystery box. Here is what the relationship includes, who it is for, and how the free experience works.
What does it mean when he leaves you on read?
One unread reply isn’t a diagnosis. DearHim helps you look at the wider pattern: his normal response time, the effort he makes, whether he returns with substance, and whether his actions match what he says.
Read the full answer →Is DearHim an AI boyfriend?
DearHim is a remembering AI companion and dating decoder for adults who date men. You can build a companion relationship, decode real texts and profiles, and bring your dating context into the conversation.
Read the full answer →Do you keep my texts?
The anonymous homepage demo scrubs personal details before each request. Account data and product conversations are handled under DearHim’s privacy policy.
Read the full answer →Can DearHim decode a text from a man I’m dating?
Yes. Paste the message into the free decoder for a direct read on the likely subtext, the behavior pattern, and a grounded next move. You can also bring the full situation to your companion so DearHim can keep the context over time.
Read the full answer →Can DearHim review dating profiles?
Yes. DearHim can review your own dating profile for clearer photos, bio, and prompts—or analyze the profile of a guy you are talking to for compatibility clues, contradictions, and questions worth asking.
Read the full answer →Can I chat with DearHim while I am on a date?
Yes. Live Date Mode gives you a private place to check in before, during, or after a real date. Because DearHim can remember the profile, texts, and history you shared, you do not have to explain the whole situation again.
Read the full answer →Does DearHim work for gay dating?
Yes. DearHim is built for adults who date men, including gay men. The product examples, profile decodes, and companion experience are designed around the real language and situations gay men navigate.
Read the full answer →Can a DearHim companion text my real phone?
Yes. DearHim is the only product in our 11-app research cohort with verified carrier SMS. Eligible paid plans let your companion text your real number in your phone’s native Messages app—not another in-app inbox.
Read the full answer →How long is DearHim free?
A free companion account includes 50 total messages during your first 3 days, then 5 messages a day through day 14. Companion chat becomes read-only on day 15 unless you upgrade, and your history stays saved. DearHim’s public dating tools remain free with no signup or expiry.
Read the full answer →What does a DearHim companion remember?
DearHim is designed to remember the people, plans, preferences, conversations, and relationship patterns you share. The public Memory Benchmark tracks whether delayed recall holds up across 7, 14, and 30 days; no winner is claimed before testing closes.
Read the full answer →Can I cancel DearHim anytime?
Yes. DearHim subscriptions can be canceled. The current plan remains available through the paid period, subject to the purchase terms for the channel you used.
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