HELP & FAQ
Everything you were about to ask. Answered honestly.
How private dating help works, what saved context remembers, and how your conversation stays private.
Getting started
The basics.
What is DearHim?
DearHim is a private dating wingman with memory for women and gay men who date men. It helps you understand a conversation, find a reply that sounds like you, and keep track of what happens next.
Who is DearHim for?
DearHim is for adults who date men, with women and gay men equally welcome. Your dating goal can be casual, serious, or still undecided. The product should help you read the evidence and choose your next move without assuming the outcome you want.
Do I need a character match or quiz before I can get dating help?
No. Start with the conversation, profile, red flag, or dating question in front of you. New accounts open Wingman without a required character-selection step.
Can I try the dating tools without signing up?
Yes. Public tools let you start with one dating question before creating an account. Create an account when you want Wingman to save the context you choose and keep your follow-up history.
Conversations & replies
What the tools can tell you.
Can DearHim know what he really means?
No tool can know another person's private intentions from one message. DearHim reads the words, timing, specificity, and follow-through you provide, then gives a grounded interpretation and a possible reply. Uncertainty should stay visible when the evidence is incomplete.
What does the screenshot analyzer do?
It extracts visible text from a screenshot on your device, lets you edit that text, then sends only the text you choose for a backend interpretation and one reply you can adapt. It does not invent a confidence score or diagnose the person in the conversation.
Should I follow every suggested reply exactly?
No. Treat a suggested reply as a draft. Adjust it to sound like you, match your dating goal, and respect the context that may not be visible in a screenshot.
Memory & context
Continuity without certainty.
What does DearHim remember?
When you use an account experience, DearHim can remember the names, timelines, decisions, and patterns you choose to share. Public tools focus on the single moment you submit. Memory preserves context, but it does not prove another person's intentions or predict what he will do.
Why would I use saved context?
Saved context can connect a new message to earlier plans, cancellations, promises, boundaries, and follow-through. That means you do not have to rebuild the whole story each time you ask a dating question.
Can I delete my account and its data?
Yes. You can request account and data deletion through settings or by emailing support@dearhim.ai. The Privacy Policy and Terms of Service contain the current details.
Privacy & availability
Your text, your choice.
How private is the screenshot analyzer?
Optical character recognition runs in your browser, so the image stays on your device during text extraction. You can edit or remove identifying details before sending the extracted text for analysis. DearHim does not connect to private social accounts.
Where does DearHim run?
DearHim is web-first. Public tools work in the browser, and new accounts open Wingman on the web.
Where should I start?
Use the screenshot analyzer for a visible conversation, the text decoder for pasted messages, or browse the free dating tools for profiles, red flags, and mixed signals.