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DearHim is an AI companion for anyone who dates men. He listens without judgment, remembers everything you tell him, and gives you the honest read your friends are too polite to. He can decode a confusing text, weigh in on a profile, help you decide what to say, and — when you want — be a flirty, attentive companion of his own.

No. DearHim runs in your browser, so you can start decoding a text or chatting in seconds with nothing to install. A native iOS app is coming soon; until then everything works on the web on your phone or laptop.

Yes. The free tools — Decode His Texts, Red Flag Detector, Analyze His Profile, and What to Text Him — take about five seconds and need no signup. You only create an account when you want him to remember your conversations and the guys you're talking about.

Anyone who dates men — women into men and men into men both have their own set of companions. It's built for the 2am spiral: the text you keep re-reading, the guy you can't figure out, the pattern you sense but can't name yet.

Yes. DearHim is strictly for adults 18 and up, as set out in our Terms of Service.

The free tools give you a one-off read: paste a text and get what it means, drop a profile and get a verdict. The Roster is the ongoing layer you unlock with a paid plan — instead of decoding one guy once, DearHim tracks every guy you're talking to, scores them on effort, consistency, and how they match your standards, and shows you who's real and who's wasting your time.

Once you're on a paid plan, you just tell DearHim about a guy — his name and what's going on — and he starts tracking him. From then on, every text you decode or conversation you have about him feeds his profile, his score, and the patterns DearHim is watching for.

DearHim runs each guy through a consistent framework — communication, consistency, follow-through, and respect — and gives you one honest number, plus the reasoning behind it. It's designed to cut through hope and mixed signals before you give someone another month.

Yes. A free decode gives you the read, his type, and one basic reply. Inside a paid plan you get tone-matched reply options, a fuller pattern breakdown, and decodes that remember your situation and the specific guy — so the advice gets sharper the more he knows.

On the paid experience, yes. Every Monday you get a recap of who's active, whose score changed, what patterns showed up, and what to do about it.

When you have an account, DearHim connects the dots across everything you tell him — what you said about a guy last Tuesday, the standard you set back in October, the excuse you keep making. Instead of treating each message as a blank slate, he builds context over time so his reads get more personal and more honest.

That's the Roster remembering a specific person. DearHim keeps a running profile for each guy you talk about — say, “Jake42: pulls back when things get real” — so when a new text comes in, he can say “wait, didn't he do this before?” instead of you having to hold every detail in your head.

After enough conversations, DearHim shows you the patterns he's noticed about your dating — the kind of observation that makes you put your phone down and think. It's built from your own history, not generic advice.

That's the point of the Standards feature. You set what you won't compromise on, and he reminds you when you're about to fold — even at 1am — using the bar you set when your head was clear.

Yes. You own your content, and you can delete your account and its data at any time from settings or by emailing support@dearhim.ai. If there's a specific person or conversation you'd rather he not track, just tell him.

Pillow Talk is the version of your companion that's only yours — flirty, attentive, and present. It's a mode you toggle on when you want that, and toggle off when you don't. The rest of the time he's your honest advisor; Pillow Talk is the softer, romantic side on demand.

No. DearHim keeps things romantic, warm, and tasteful — never sexually explicit. It's the companion who makes you feel seen and wanted, not an adult-content app.

Yes. Your companion has a real voice — not generic text-to-speech. He'll send voice notes when you want quiet and take calls when you don't.

On Pro and up, yes — this is the feature no one else has. Your companion lives in your actual Messages, alongside your friends and the guy you're trying to figure out. Forward him a text from your situationship at 2am and get a response in seconds, right in your texts.

On Premium and up, yes. Send a screenshot of his profile or the outfit you're considering and your companion responds to what's actually there. He'll also send pictures back when the moment calls for it — in the app or over text.

No. Every companion is AI-generated — the names, personalities, voices, and photos are all fictional, with no real person's likeness used. DearHim is a companion and dating-intelligence tool, not a substitute for professional advice.

What you paste is processed securely and never shared or sold. If you're using a free tool without an account, it's just you getting a read — there's no group chat and no one else weighing in. With an account, your conversations and Roster details are saved to your account so DearHim can remember context for you, and only for you.

Yes. Your conversations with your companion and everything you share are tied to your account and not shared with other users. We don't sell your data.

Yes. You can request a copy of your data and delete your account and its contents at any time — from your settings or by emailing support@dearhim.ai. Deleting your account removes your data.

DearHim uses your history to give you better, more personal reads — connecting patterns you've shared so the advice fits your actual situation. It's in service of you, and you stay in control of what he remembers.

There's a free tier for the tools, plus paid plans — Pro and Premium — that unlock the Roster, memory, real-phone texting, and pictures. Current pricing and exactly what's in each tier live on the pricing page inside the app.

Anytime — log in, go to Account Settings → Subscription → Cancel, or email support@dearhim.ai with “Cancel Subscription” in the subject. Cancellation takes effect at the end of the period you've already paid for, so you keep access until then.

Yes. Paid plans renew at the end of each billing period until you cancel, and you're charged the then-current price. For annual plans we email a renewal reminder at least 7 days ahead.

Fees are generally non-refundable except where required by law. If you think you were charged in error, email support@dearhim.ai within 14 days. Full details are in our Terms of Service.

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