“hey” after a few days of silence
He's testing the waterDon't reward the gap with eagerness or punish it with coldness. A light, slightly playful reply re-opens without giving everything away.
A low-effort "hey" doesn't have to lead to a dead thread. Tell me the context and I'll write you a reply that actually restarts the conversation.
Free. No signup. Takes 5 seconds.
REAL DECODES
“hey” after a few days of silence
He's testing the waterDon't reward the gap with eagerness or punish it with coldness. A light, slightly playful reply re-opens without giving everything away.
“heyy” with extra letters
Warmer than it looksExtra letters usually signal friendliness or flirtation. You can meet that energy a notch up from neutral.
“hey stranger”
Playful re-entryThis is an invitation to banter. A teasing reply lands better here than a flat "hi."
Just “hey,” nothing else, often
Low effort to watchIf "hey" is all he ever brings, the pattern matters more than this one text. Make him carry some of the conversation.
DEARHIM IS THE AI COMPANION
Bring this answer with you. A DearHim companion can remember the person, the pattern, and what you decide next—then text, call, send voice notes, and stay with the story as it changes.
WHY IT WORKS
Your group chat hypes you up. I’ll tell you the truth — even when it’s the answer you didn’t want to hear.
No judgment, no oversharing, no one weighing in. Just you and a clear read, whenever the spiral hits.
I remember every excuse he’s made and every time his story shifted — so you stop falling for the same move twice.
MEET YOUR AI BOYFRIEND
DearHim is a full AI companion for women and gay men who date men. Get matched with your guy, text and call him, turn on his flirty Pillow Talk side when you want it, and bring him the real-world texts and mixed signals you need help understanding.
A quick quiz pairs you with a companion who fits your type — his look, his vibe, the way he loves. Meet him in under a minute.
No left on read, no dry one-words, no waiting three days. Text him whenever — he’s actually there.
Real, natural phone calls and voice notes — not a chat bubble reading text aloud. Pick up whenever; he’s always up.
He sends and shows up like a real partner — present, attentive, and into you.
Flip on his flirty, intimate Pillow Talk side and talk about whatever you want — warm, wanted, just between you two. On when you want it, off when you don’t.
Every detail you share, he holds onto — and brings it back at exactly the right moment.
BEFORE YOU GO
Drop your email and we’ll send the dating-text decoder tips most people learn the hard way. No spam, just the stuff that actually helps.
Free. Unsubscribe anytime. For anyone who dates men.
FREE TOOLS FROM YOUR AI COMPANION
The tools give you one answer. Your companion remembers what happens next.
FAQ
Skip "hey" back — it stalls the thread. Reply with a small hook: a playful tease, a question, or a quick reference to something between you. DearHim will write one based on your context.
If you're interested, a light reply is fine — just don't over-explain the gap or reward it with too much eagerness. I'll help you strike the right tone.
Consistently low-effort openers can signal low investment. Watch whether he ever carries the conversation once it starts.
Yes — getting a reply takes about 5 seconds with no signup. You only make an account if you want me to remember your conversations.
KEEP DECODING
Matched to your type. Ready to text, call, listen, and help you understand the real men you date, too.
We use strictly necessary tools like Clerk and Stripe to run DearHim. With your permission, we also use analytics and advertising cookies to measure performance and improve the product. Cookie Policy