Opening a new conversation
Lead with a hook
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REAL DECODES
Texting a guy you like, decoded.
You want to flirt a little
Tease, don't gush
Light teasing reads as confidence; over-complimenting reads as eagerness. A playful jab beats a paragraph of praise.
You're worried about double texting
Say it once, well
One strong message beats three anxious ones. Send something worth replying to, then let him come to you.
You want to make a move
Be direct, stay light
Suggesting a specific plan is attractive. 'We should grab coffee Thursday' beats hinting and hoping he asks.
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FAQ
More about texting a guy you like.
How do I text a guy I like without seeming desperate?
Keep messages specific, a little playful, and balanced — don't carry the whole thread or over-compliment. DearHim writes you texts that show interest while protecting your value.
What should I text him to start a conversation?
Open with a hook tied to something real between you, or a question he'll actually want to answer. I'll generate a few you can use.
How do I keep him interested over text?
Match his effort, leave room for him to chase, and don't be afraid to end a conversation on a high note. Mystery beats availability.
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