You want to open flirty
Tease something specific
Callback to an inside joke or something he said. Specific beats a generic ‘hey ;)’ every time — it shows you were paying attention.
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Flirting over text, by the moment.
He said something cute
Reward it, then volley
Acknowledge it warmly, then add a playful jab back. Flirting is a rally, not a compliment contest.
You want tension without being obvious
Leave a little unsaid
A hint of ‘I might tell you later’ builds more pull than saying everything. Curiosity is flirtation.
You’re worried about being too much
Match, don’t chase
Give roughly what he gives. Flirting lands best when it feels mutual, not like you’re carrying it alone.
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How do I flirt with a guy over text without being cringe?
Be playful and specific — tease, call back to inside jokes, and leave a little unsaid. Skip generic lines. DearHim writes flirty texts that sound like you, not a template.
How do I flirt without seeming desperate?
Match his effort instead of over-giving. Flirting works best as a two-way rally; if you’re carrying all of it, ease off and let him step in.
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