You want to open flirty
Tease something specificCallback to an inside joke or something he said. Specific beats a generic ‘hey ;)’ every time — it shows you were paying attention.
How do you flirt with a guy over text?
Playful, specific, and never trying too hard.
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Flirting over text, by the moment.
He said something cute
Reward it, then volleyAcknowledge it warmly, then add a playful jab back. Flirting is a rally, not a compliment contest.
You want tension without being obvious
Leave a little unsaidA hint of ‘I might tell you later’ builds more pull than saying everything. Curiosity is flirtation.
You’re worried about being too much
Match, don’t chaseGive roughly what he gives. Flirting lands best when it feels mutual, not like you’re carrying it alone.
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FAQ
More about flirting over text.
How do I flirt with a guy over text without being cringe?
Be playful and specific — tease, call back to inside jokes, and leave a little unsaid. Skip generic lines. DearHim writes flirty texts that sound like you, not a template.
How do I flirt without seeming desperate?
Match his effort instead of over-giving. Flirting works best as a two-way rally; if you’re carrying all of it, ease off and let him step in.
What if I’m bad at coming up with flirty texts?
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Is this really free?
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