Texts constantly, never makes plans
Attention, not pursuitEndless chatting with no movement toward seeing you often means he likes the attention more than he wants the relationship.
Does he like you,
or just like the attention?
Attention feels like interest until you look at effort. Paste the thread and I'll tell you whether he's investing in you or just enjoying being wanted.
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Remembers details, follows up
Real interestRemembering what you said and circling back to it is investment in you specifically — a strong green flag.
Flirts with everyone, including you
Attention-seeking patternIf the same energy goes to everyone, it's less about you and more about being wanted. Watch how he treats you differently — or doesn't.
Plans dates and shows up
Interest, full stopConsistent effort that costs him something — time, planning, showing up — is the clearest sign it's real.
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FAQ
More about interest vs. attention.
How do I tell if he likes me or just wants attention?
Interest shows up as effort that costs him something — plans, follow-through, prioritizing you. Attention-seeking is high contact with no movement. DearHim reads your thread to tell you which pattern he fits.
Can a guy like me and still just want attention?
Sometimes both are true, but the deciding factor is whether he invests. Feelings without effort rarely become a relationship.
What should I do if it's just attention?
Stop supplying the attention for free and watch what he does. If he steps up, great; if he disappears, he told you what it was. I'll help you decide your move.
Is this really free?
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