Texts constantly, never makes plans
Attention, not pursuit
Endless chatting with no movement toward seeing you often means he likes the attention more than he wants the relationship.
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Interest vs. attention, decoded.
Remembers details, follows up
Real interest
Remembering what you said and circling back to it is investment in you specifically — a strong green flag.
Flirts with everyone, including you
Attention-seeking pattern
If the same energy goes to everyone, it's less about you and more about being wanted. Watch how he treats you differently — or doesn't.
Plans dates and shows up
Interest, full stop
Consistent effort that costs him something — time, planning, showing up — is the clearest sign it's real.
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FAQ
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How do I tell if he likes me or just wants attention?
Interest shows up as effort that costs him something — plans, follow-through, prioritizing you. Attention-seeking is high contact with no movement. DearHim reads your thread to tell you which pattern he fits.
Can a guy like me and still just want attention?
Sometimes both are true, but the deciding factor is whether he invests. Feelings without effort rarely become a relationship.
What should I do if it's just attention?
Stop supplying the attention for free and watch what he does. If he steps up, great; if he disappears, he told you what it was. I'll help you decide your move.
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