Teases you specifically
Flirting
Playful teasing aimed just at you, with a little tension, is classic flirting — not the energy he gives everyone.
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Flirting vs. friendly, decoded.
Warm but the same with everyone
Just nice
If his warmth is identical to how he treats friends and coworkers, it's likely politeness, not pursuit. Compare the energy.
Finds reasons to keep texting
Flirting
Stretching a conversation past its natural end and circling back means he wants the contact, not just to be polite.
Helpful but never personal
Just nice
Friendly and useful without ever getting personal or playful usually means he's being kind, not interested.
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FAQ
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How do I tell if he's flirting or just being nice?
The tells are specificity and tension: does he tease you in particular, create reasons to keep talking, and treat you differently than everyone else? DearHim reads the thread to tell you which it is.
What's the clearest sign of flirting over text?
Playful teasing, inside jokes, and effort to prolong the conversation are the strongest signals. Generic friendliness lacks that targeted energy.
How do I flirt back without being obvious?
Match his energy a notch up — a light tease or a playful question keeps the tension going without overcommitting. I'll write you one.
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