Texts mostly late at night
Hookup-leaningA late-only rhythm with little daytime conversation usually points at physical convenience over real connection.
Relationship or just a hookup?
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Asks about your life and day
Relationship-leaningCuriosity about who you are — not just plans to meet — signals he's interested in you, not only the hookup.
Makes real daytime plans
InvestingDates that cost time and effort, in public, during normal hours, are a strong sign he's building something.
Avoids any future or label talk
Keeping it casual on purposeDodging where-is-this-going conversations while staying close usually means he wants it undefined. Believe that.
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FAQ
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How do I know if he wants a relationship or just a hookup?
Look at timing, curiosity, and effort: daytime conversation, questions about your life, and real plans lean relationship; late-only texts and avoidance of the future lean hookup. DearHim reads your thread to tell you which.
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