Says it after real closeness
Maybe genuine
Real confusion can follow getting close. It's still on him to work through — not on you to wait indefinitely.
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“I'm confused,” decoded.
Uses it to avoid commitment
A stall
'Confused' can be a soft way to keep you around without choosing you. Watch whether anything actually changes.
Confused but keeps you close
Wants comfort without clarity
Staying close while 'figuring it out' often means he likes the comfort. You're allowed to need more than that.
Says it every few weeks
A pattern, not a phase
Recurring confusion that never resolves is the answer. Chronic indecision rarely turns into commitment.
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What does it mean when he says he's confused?
It can be genuine, or a stall that keeps you available without commitment. The tell is whether anything actually changes. DearHim helps you read which it is.
Should I wait for him to figure it out?
You can give real confusion some room, but not at the cost of your own life. Recurring confusion is itself an answer. I'll help you decide.
How do I respond when he says he's confused?
Acknowledge it, state what you need, and don't shrink to make it easier for him. Clarity is fair to ask for. I'll help you word it.
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