Quiet for 2 days, then replies warmly
Not ghostingA gap followed by genuine re-engagement is just life. Don't pre-grieve a relationship that's still going.
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Or just busy? There's a difference.
Ghosting and a slow week look similar — until you read the pattern. Tell me the timeline and I'll tell you which it is and what to do.
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Ghosting vs. busy, decoded.
Replies got shorter, then stopped
Fading outA slow taper to silence is the most common form of ghosting. The kindest thing you can do is stop chasing and reclaim your energy.
Active online, silent with you
That's a choiceIf he's clearly online and choosing not to reply, that's information. It's not your job to earn back attention he's withholding.
Disappeared after you got vulnerable
Avoidance ghostingSome people vanish when things get real. It reflects his capacity, not your worth. Let him show you who he is.
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FAQ
More about ghosting.
How do I know if he's ghosting me or just busy?
Busy people still send a quick word and re-engage warmly; ghosting is a fade to silence, often after things got closer. Paste the timeline into DearHim and I'll tell you which pattern this is.
Should I text him if I think he's ghosting?
One calm message is reasonable. After that, more texts cost you more than they could ever gain. I'll help you write the one — or decide to send none.
Is ghosting my fault?
No. Ghosting reflects the other person's communication capacity, not your value. It feels personal but rarely is.
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