His availability got unpredictable
Worth noticingSudden gaps, vague schedules, and inconsistent attention can mean his time is split. One change isn't proof; a cluster is a clue.
How do you know if he's seeing someone else?
Patterns leak — here's what to watch.
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Signs he may be seeing someone else.
He's vague about his plans
Possible signNew evasiveness about where he is or who he's with can signal he's managing more than one connection. Trust shifts in the pattern.
He keeps things undefined on purpose
TellingResisting any label can be about keeping options open. Ambiguity sometimes protects his ability to see others.
Your gut just knows
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FAQ
More about him seeing other people.
What are signs he's seeing someone else?
Unpredictable availability, new vagueness about plans, resistance to defining things, and reduced attention. No single sign is proof, but a cluster is worth a direct conversation. DearHim helps you read it.
Should I just ask him if he's seeing other people?
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What if we never agreed to be exclusive?
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