'...but I'm not ready'
A no, for nowHe's telling you his liking won't translate into action yet. Believe the 'but,' not the warmth that softened it.
What does 'I like you, but...' mean?
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'I like you, but...', decoded.
'...but the timing is bad'
Usually a soft declineTiming excuses are real sometimes, but often they're a gentle exit. Watch whether he actually shows up despite the 'bad timing.'
'...but I'm scared'
Possibly genuineFear can be real and workable — if he moves toward you anyway. Fear that only produces distance is just a nicer 'no.'
'...but I don't want a relationship'
Take it literallyThis is the clearest version. He likes you and still doesn't want what you might. Plan around the 'but.'
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More about 'I like you, but'.
What does it mean when a guy says he likes you but?
The 'but' carries the truth — a condition or limit on his interest. Liking you isn't the same as choosing you. DearHim helps you weigh what he's actually offering.
Should I wait for him to get over the 'but'?
Only if his actions show real movement. Waiting on a stated limit, hoping it dissolves, usually costs you time. Believe what he told you.
How do I respond?
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