He starts then drops it repeatedly
Low-effort attentionInitiating then vanishing keeps you in his orbit without real investment. It's attention on his terms, not connection.
Why does he text you then ignore you?
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He texts when bored, ignores otherwise
ConvenienceIf contact lines up with his idle moments, you're a time-filler. The pattern reveals the priority.
He's genuinely scattered
Possibly just disorganizedSome people fire off a text then get distracted. If he's warm when present and it's not constant, it may be chaos, not coldness.
It leaves you anxious every time
Worth addressingA dynamic that keeps you guessing isn't serving you. You're allowed to want consistency — and to step back if it's absent.
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FAQ
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Why does he text me first then ignore my reply?
Usually it's low-effort attention or convenience — reaching out keeps you close without real investment. Occasionally it's genuine scattered-ness. DearHim helps you read which from the pattern.
Should I keep replying when he does this?
Don't over-invest in someone who only half-shows-up. Match real energy and don't reorganize your attention around his on-off contact. I can help you respond.
How do I get him to be consistent?
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