He goes quiet to see if you chase
Manufactured testWithholding to gauge your reaction is a game, not intimacy. The healthiest ‘answer’ is staying calm and not chasing.
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Is it a test?, by behavior.
He shares an opinion and watches your reaction
Compatibility checkSome ‘tests’ are just him figuring out if you fit. Being honest, not performing, is what actually serves you here.
He brings up an ex to see if you get jealous
Low-grade gameBaiting jealousy is a red-ish flag. Staying unbothered protects your peace and refuses the frame.
You feel like you’re always being evaluated
The dynamic is the problemIf you constantly feel on trial, that pressure is worth naming. The right person makes you feel chosen, not assessed.
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How do I know if a guy is testing me?
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Should I play along if he’s testing me?
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