He goes quiet to see if you chase
Manufactured test
Withholding to gauge your reaction is a game, not intimacy. The healthiest ‘answer’ is staying calm and not chasing.
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REAL DECODES
Is it a test?, by behavior.
He shares an opinion and watches your reaction
Compatibility check
Some ‘tests’ are just him figuring out if you fit. Being honest, not performing, is what actually serves you here.
He brings up an ex to see if you get jealous
Low-grade game
Baiting jealousy is a red-ish flag. Staying unbothered protects your peace and refuses the frame.
You feel like you’re always being evaluated
The dynamic is the problem
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FAQ
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How do I know if a guy is testing me?
Watch for withholding, jealousy bait, or feeling constantly evaluated. Some ‘tests’ are just compatibility checks; others are games. DearHim helps you tell which — and respond without auditioning.
Should I play along if he’s testing me?
No. The strongest move is staying yourself and refusing to chase or perform. Someone worth your time isn’t running you through hoops.
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