Said early and honestly
Take it at face valueWhen he tells you upfront he wants casual, believe him. People rarely 'turn into' wanting more just because you hope they will.
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'Keep it casual', decoded.
You want something serious
Mismatch to respectIf your goals differ, no amount of being the 'cool girl/guy' changes his. Honoring your own wants is the power move.
Said after you asked for more
A boundary, not a maybe'Casual' in response to your bid for clarity is an answer. Waiting for him to change usually costs you time you won't get back.
You're genuinely fine with casual
Set your own termsCasual can work — if it's truly mutual and you protect your boundaries. Be honest with yourself about whether it stays enough.
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FAQ
More about keeping it casual.
What does it mean when a guy wants to keep it casual?
He's telling you his intent: low commitment, no labels. It's usually honest and worth believing. The real question is whether casual works for you. DearHim helps you decide your next move.
Can casual turn into a relationship?
Sometimes, but rarely just because you wait and hope. If he stated casual clearly, plan around what he said, not what you wish he'd become.
How do I respond if I want more?
Be honest about what you want. If it doesn't match, walking is self-respect, not failure. I can help you say it cleanly.
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