It started after things got close
Possible fear responseSome people pull back exactly when it's going well — intimacy spooks them. It's about him, not a verdict on you.
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Sudden distance, by the likely cause.
He's stressed with work or life
Often situationalExternal pressure can shrink anyone's bandwidth. If the warmth returns when the stress lifts, it wasn't about you.
It followed a specific moment
Something unresolvedIf you can trace the distance to one exchange, there may be a misread or hurt feeling sitting under it. Worth a calm check-in.
Slow fade, declining effort
Cooling interestIf distance comes with steadily less effort and no return, it may be interest fading. Believe the trend, not the hope.
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More about sudden distance.
Why did he suddenly get distant?
Common causes are fear of closeness, outside stress, an unresolved moment, or cooling interest. The trigger and timing point to which. DearHim helps you narrow it before you overreact.
Should I ask him what's wrong?
Yes, once, calmly — 'You've felt a little distant, everything okay?' invites honesty without accusation. Pressure pushes a distant person further. I'll help you word it.
What should I not do when he pulls away?
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