Flirty all week, then goes quiet
Comfort, then self-protectionMany guys pull back right after getting close — it's fear of intensity, not loss of interest. Whether he returns and repairs tells you if it's worth it.
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Makes plans, then gets vague
Wants the option, not the commitmentEnthusiasm followed by fog usually means he likes keeping you available without deciding. Name a concrete plan and watch what he does.
Deep talk one night, dry the next
Vulnerability hangoverHe opened up and then retreated to feel safe again. Consistency over weeks — not one good night — is the real signal.
Says he's not ready but keeps texting
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Why is he giving me mixed signals?
Mixed signals usually come from one of a few patterns: fear of closeness, wanting to keep options open, or genuine uncertainty. They're rarely random. Paste the thread and DearHim will name the pattern instead of leaving you guessing.
Should I call out the mixed signals?
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Do mixed signals mean he's not interested?
Not always — but consistency is what interest looks like in practice. If the back-and-forth never resolves into steady effort, that's your answer.
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