Used to start daily, now never does
Investment is droppingA clear shift from initiating to waiting usually tracks with cooling interest. The change matters more than any single day.
He stopped texting first.
The shift in initiation is the signal.
When someone who used to initiate suddenly stops, the change itself is the message. Paste the pattern and I'll help you read it.
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Dropped initiation, decoded.
Still warm when you start it
Comfortable, coastingIf he's engaged once you reach out but never initiates, he likes the attention without the effort. That's coasting.
Stopped after you always initiated
Letting you carry itWhen you take over initiating, some people simply stop. Pull back and see whether he steps up or lets it go quiet.
Busy stretch, then resumes
Maybe just a phaseA temporary dip during a hectic period that bounces back isn't the same as a lasting drop. Watch whether it recovers.
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FAQ
More about dropped initiation.
What does it mean when he stops texting first?
A shift from initiating to never starting usually signals cooling interest or coasting on your effort. The change is the signal. DearHim reads the pattern to tell you which.
Should I stop texting first too?
Pulling back is a fair test — it shows whether he'll step up or let it fade. His response tells you what you need to know. I'll help you decide.
Does this always mean he's losing interest?
Not always — a busy phase can cause a temporary dip. But a lasting drop in initiation is worth taking seriously.
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