“Been thinking about you” after weeks
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Nice words after a long gap mean little until a real plan follows. Watch what comes after the opener.
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Out-of-nowhere texts, decoded.
“wyd” late at night
Convenience
A late one-liner out of silence is usually about availability, not genuine reconnection.
References something specific you shared
Probably genuine
Remembering a real detail and bringing it back shows he was actually thinking of you, not just bored.
Resurfaces right when you moved on
Boomerang timing
Reappearing the moment you let go often means he wants the option open, not you specifically.
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What does it mean when he texts out of nowhere?
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Why do guys text out of nowhere?
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