Daily, with real depth and plans
Strong interestConsistent contact that includes real conversation and actual plans is one of the best signs — he's choosing you daily.
Daily texting feels like a great sign — but the content matters as much as the frequency. Paste the thread and I'll tell you what it really means.
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Daily, with real depth and plans
Strong interestConsistent contact that includes real conversation and actual plans is one of the best signs — he's choosing you daily.
Daily but always surface-level
Comfortable, not committedTexting every day without depth or plans can be habit and comfort more than romantic intent. Watch for effort beyond the chat.
Daily, but never asks you out
Pen-pal zoneEndless daily texting that never becomes a date can mean he enjoys the attention without pursuing more. Test with a plan.
Daily, and he initiates often
Green flagIf he's the one starting many of those daily threads, that initiation is a clear sign you're on his mind.
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FAQ
It's a good sign, but frequency alone isn't enough — depth, initiation, and whether it leads to plans matter more. DearHim reads the full picture to tell you what it means.
He may enjoy the connection without being ready to pursue more. The clearest test is proposing a plan and watching what he does.
Not if it feels natural and mutual. It only becomes a problem when one person carries it or it replaces real plans.
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