His availability got unpredictable
Schedule is shifting
When someone's free time suddenly reshuffles with no explanation, their attention may be spread across more than one person.
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Divided attention leaves traces — shifting availability, vaguer plans, sudden distance. Paste the pattern and I'll help you read whether your instinct is onto something.
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REAL DECODES
Divided-attention signs, decoded.
Vaguer about his plans and nights
Withholding detail
New vagueness where there used to be openness is worth noticing. People get cagey about things they don't want you to ask about.
Energy runs hot then cold in waves
Attention rotating
Interest that comes in waves can track with where his focus is at the moment — sometimes you, sometimes elsewhere.
Avoids defining anything
Keeping options open
Refusing to make it exclusive while staying close often means he's protecting his ability to keep talking to others.
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How do I know if he's talking to someone else?
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