You always text first
Step back a littleIf you fill every silence, he never has to reach. Leaving room invites him to step up — or reveals he won't.
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How do I get him to text me first?
Create space rather than playing silent games — stop filling every gap, ease off instant replies, and live your life. If he still never initiates, that's the real answer. DearHim helps you read it.
Is it manipulative to wait for him to text?
Not if it's authentic balance rather than a calculated game. The goal is a mutual dynamic, not a power play.
What if he never texts first?
Then initiation isn't mutual, and that imbalance is information about his investment — not a flaw in your approach.
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