He shares real feelings, not just facts
Good signLetting you see what's actually going on inside — worry, hope, hurt — is the core of availability. Surface-only talk is the opposite.
Is he emotionally available?
Watch how he handles closeness.
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He pulls back whenever it gets deep
Warning signA pattern of retreating exactly when intimacy grows often means he's not ready for real closeness, whatever he says.
He talks about his past openly
EncouragingReflecting on past relationships without total walls or total blame suggests he's done some inner work.
Hot then cold on a loop
Classic unavailabilityDrawing close then disappearing is the signature of someone who wants connection but fears it. It's about him, not your worth.
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FAQ
More about emotional availability.
What are signs a guy is emotionally unavailable?
Pulling away when things get close, keeping talk surface-level, hot-and-cold cycles, and avoiding any conversation about feelings or the future. DearHim helps you spot the pattern in your situation.
Can an emotionally unavailable guy change?
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How do I protect myself with an unavailable guy?
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