He shares real feelings, not just facts
Good sign
Letting you see what's actually going on inside — worry, hope, hurt — is the core of availability. Surface-only talk is the opposite.
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He pulls back whenever it gets deep
Warning sign
A pattern of retreating exactly when intimacy grows often means he's not ready for real closeness, whatever he says.
He talks about his past openly
Encouraging
Reflecting on past relationships without total walls or total blame suggests he's done some inner work.
Hot then cold on a loop
Classic unavailability
Drawing close then disappearing is the signature of someone who wants connection but fears it. It's about him, not your worth.
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FAQ
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What are signs a guy is emotionally unavailable?
Pulling away when things get close, keeping talk surface-level, hot-and-cold cycles, and avoiding any conversation about feelings or the future. DearHim helps you spot the pattern in your situation.
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