A normal 'send a selfie' early on
Fine to share or playfully deflectA casual selfie request is common. Send one if you want, or deflect with humor. There's no wrong answer that's true to you.
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He's pushing for more than you want
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More about responding to a picture request.
What do I say when a guy asks for a picture?
Whatever's true for you — send one if you want, deflect with humor, or hold a clear boundary. You never owe anyone a photo. DearHim can help you reply with confidence either way.
How do I say no without making it awkward?
A light, unbothered 'haha not my thing' keeps it easy and firm. You don't need to over-explain. Someone worth your time will respect it.
What if he keeps pressuring me?
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