'idk' to 'what are we?'
AvoidanceOn a defining question, 'idk' is usually a stall, not real confusion. He may know and not want to say. That's information.
What does it mean when he says 'idk'?
Sometimes unsure. Sometimes avoiding.
'idk' can be honest uncertainty or a dodge. Tell me the question he answered it with and I'll tell you which.
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'idk', by the question.
'idk, what do you want to do?'
Low-effort, not coldFor plans, 'idk' is often laziness or politeness, not disinterest. Offer a concrete option and watch if he engages.
'idk how to say this'
Real vulnerabilityHere he's genuinely struggling to find words for something that matters. Give him patience, not pressure.
'idk' to 'do you like me?'
A soft no, oftenInterest rarely answers 'idk.' A hesitant non-answer to a direct feelings question usually leans toward not enough.
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FAQ
More about 'idk'.
What does it mean when a guy says idk a lot?
It depends on the question. On plans it's low effort; on feelings or 'what are we' it's often avoidance. Repeated 'idk' to big questions is itself an answer. DearHim helps you read which kind you're getting.
How do I respond to 'idk'?
Replace the open question with a concrete one — 'Friday or Saturday?' beats 'what do you want to do?' For feelings, name what you need clearly. I'll help you phrase it.
Is 'idk' a red flag?
One isn't. A pattern of 'idk' to anything that requires commitment can be. Watch whether he ever moves things forward on his own.
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