He starts conversations, not just replies
Strong signInitiation is the single most honest signal. Someone who texts first, regularly, is choosing you on purpose.
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Look at effort, not words.
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He asks follow-up questions
Good signCuriosity about your day, your opinions, your life means he's invested in you — not just keeping a thread warm.
He remembers details and brings them back
Very good signReferencing something you mentioned days ago takes attention. People remember what they care about.
He's warm but never makes a move
MixedNice texts with zero progression can mean shy — or comfortable with attention he won't act on. Time tells which.
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FAQ
More on reading his interest over text.
What are the clearest signs a guy likes you over text?
He initiates, asks questions, remembers details, replies with substance, and moves toward seeing you. Sweet words without those patterns mean less. DearHim weighs your actual thread against these signals.
Does fast replying mean he likes me?
It can, but it's not decisive — some people just text fast. Consistent effort and initiation matter far more than speed.
How can I tell if he's just being friendly?
Friendly stays flat; interested escalates — toward flirting, toward plans, toward you. If nothing ever moves forward, that's your answer.
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