Asked directly and a little nervously
He's interested
A slightly awkward, direct ask usually means he wants to know if there's room for him. That's a green light to gauge his intent.
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REAL DECODES
The question, by how he asked.
Asked casually, then dropped it
Testing, not committing
A breezy ask with no follow-through can be curiosity or ego-checking. Watch if he acts on the answer.
Asked right before suggesting plans
Clear interest
Checking availability and then making a move is textbook pursuit. He's clearing the runway.
Asked but won't say where he stands
Mixed
Wanting to know your status while hiding his own can signal someone keeping options open. Fair to ask him back.
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FAQ
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Why would a guy ask if you're seeing someone?
Almost always because he's weighing his own interest and wants to know if there's space for him. It's one of the more direct interest signals. DearHim can read how he asked to confirm.
How should I answer it?
Honestly and confidently — and it's fair to turn it back: 'Why do you ask?' That gently surfaces his intent. I can help you phrase the reply.
Does it always mean he likes me?
Usually it points that way, but watch what he does next. Interest acts on the answer; idle curiosity doesn't.
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