Asked directly and a little nervously
He's interestedA slightly awkward, direct ask usually means he wants to know if there's room for him. That's a green light to gauge his intent.
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The question, by how he asked.
Asked casually, then dropped it
Testing, not committingA breezy ask with no follow-through can be curiosity or ego-checking. Watch if he acts on the answer.
Asked right before suggesting plans
Clear interestChecking availability and then making a move is textbook pursuit. He's clearing the runway.
Asked but won't say where he stands
MixedWanting to know your status while hiding his own can signal someone keeping options open. Fair to ask him back.
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Why would a guy ask if you're seeing someone?
Almost always because he's weighing his own interest and wants to know if there's space for him. It's one of the more direct interest signals. DearHim can read how he asked to confirm.
How should I answer it?
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Does it always mean he likes me?
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