HOW IT READS IN CONTEXT
The surrounding pattern matters.
Being used looks like effort that only flows one way. Paste the pattern and I'll help you see whether he's invested in you — or just in what you give him.
PATTERN · TEXTING DICTIONARY
What does “Is he using me?” mean?
Context decides the real answer.
Is he using you? Being used looks like effort that only flows one way. Paste the pattern and I'll help you see whether he's invested in you — or just in what you give him.
PLAIN MEANING
Is he using you?
EXAMPLE
“Only texts when he wants something”
If contact spikes around his needs and vanishes otherwise, the relationship is built around his convenience, not you.
RELATED TERMS
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PatternGhostingEnding communication without explanation.PatternBreadcrumbingSmall bursts of attention that keep you invested without progress.PatternOrbitingWatching and reacting online after withdrawing from direct contact.PatternBenchingKeeping someone available while prioritizing other options.PatternLove bombingIntense affection or future talk used to accelerate attachment.PatternFuture fakingBig future promises without matching present action.PatternSlow fadeA gradual decline in contact and effort.PatternDouble textSending another message before receiving a reply.
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