Texts every day but won't make plans
Drop HimHe's performing interest without investing in it. Daily texts with no plans is a comfort pattern, not pursuit — he's keeping you available while he decides if he wants more.
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REAL VERDICTS
What your Wingman's read looks like.
Two months in, consistent, shows up
Worth ItTwo months of consistent behavior is real data. He isn't just saying the right things — he's doing them. That's the baseline for someone worth your energy.
Hot and cold — great week, then vanishes
Watch CloselyHis inconsistency isn't random, it's a pattern. The disappearing keeps you uncertain and the returns keep you invested. Watch whether he gets more consistent, not just more apologetic.
Barely any context yet
Needs More DataThere isn't enough to make a confident call yet, but the situation is worth monitoring. I'll tell you exactly which signals to watch for next.
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It says what you already know.
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Standards flags, not vague feelings.
Every read comes with specific behaviors I spotted — Breadcrumbing, Inconsistent Effort, Making Real Plans. Once you can name the pattern, it's much harder to ignore it.
It tracks how each guy trends.
Save your roster inside DearHim and I'll watch the patterns over time — so you know when someone's genuinely stepping up versus just apologizing again.
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FAQ
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How many guys can I rate for free?
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What do the verdicts mean?
Worth It means he's showing up and making an effort. Drop Him means the patterns are clear and continuing to invest is wasting your energy. Watch Closely means there's potential but something needs to shift. Needs More Data means there isn't enough context yet to make a confident call.
What are standards flags?
Specific behavioral patterns I identify in what you describe — things like Breadcrumbing, Avoidant Attachment, Inconsistent Effort, or Making Real Plans. They help you name what you're actually observing instead of a feeling you can't quite articulate.
How do I know if a guy is wasting my time?
If he's consistent about reaching out but never actually makes plans, that's a pattern. Guys who are serious make time; guys who are comfortable keep things vague. I look at what he does, not just what he says, and tell you straight.
Is my information private?
Yes. The situations you describe are processed securely and are never shared or sold, and I don't store personal details about the people you rate.
Does it work if I date men as a man?
Absolutely. DearHim is built for anyone who dates men — straight women and gay men alike. Every verdict is about his behavior, not your identity.
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