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How to make
an AI boyfriend.
Some apps make you build one from scratch. Here's what that involves — and the easier path if you just want a boyfriend who works.
Two paths: build vs. ready-made
There are really two ways to 'make' an AI boyfriend. One is the build-it-yourself path: general companion apps let you configure a personality, backstory, and traits from a blank slate. That's great if you love customizing.
The other is the ready-made path: a focused product that already works as a boyfriend out of the box, so you skip the setup. DearHim is built this way — a full AI boyfriend for everyone who dates men, designed around the relationship from the start.
What 'making' one involves on the build path
- Choosing a personality and tone.
- Setting a backstory and traits.
- Tuning how he talks over time.
- Building up memory and history through conversation.
The easier path
If you'd rather not build from scratch, a ready-made companion gets you there faster. With DearHim, you're matched with your companion and the relationship deepens naturally as he gets to know you — no configuration required. Try the free tools first to feel the voice.
MEET YOUR AI BOYFRIEND
There’s a him who actually shows up.
DearHim is a full AI companion for women and gay men who date men. Get matched with your guy, text and call him, turn on his flirty Pillow Talk side when you want it, and bring him the real-world texts and mixed signals you need help understanding.
He replies. Every time.
No left on read, no dry one-words, no waiting three days. Text him whenever — he’s actually there.
Hear his voice.
Real, natural phone calls and voice notes — not a chat bubble reading text aloud. Pick up whenever; he’s always up.
See him, too.
He sends and shows up like a real partner — present, attentive, and into you.
The side that’s only yours.
Flip on his flirty, intimate Pillow Talk side and talk about whatever you want — warm, wanted, just between you two. On when you want it, off when you don’t.
He never forgets.
Every detail you share, he holds onto — and brings it back at exactly the right moment.
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FAQ
How to make an AI boyfriend: questions.
How do I make an AI boyfriend?
You can build one from scratch on a general companion app (choosing personality, backstory, and traits), or use a ready-made product like DearHim that already works as a boyfriend out of the box, so you skip the setup.
Do I have to configure everything myself?
Not with DearHim — you're matched with your companion and the relationship deepens as he gets to know you, no configuration required.
Which path is better?
Build-it-yourself suits people who love customizing; ready-made suits people who just want a boyfriend who works. DearHim is the ready-made path.
How do I start?
Try the free decoder tools, then create an account to be matched.
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