WATCH FOR
- —Any immediate threat to physical, sexual, financial, or digital safety.
- —Attempts to isolate, trap, monitor, threaten, or coerce you.
- —Whether you can reach trusted support without increasing danger.
URGENT FLAG · CONSENT
He refuses a safer-sex conversation—
is that a red flag?
Use the pattern, impact, boundary response, and safety context—not one label—to decide what deserves attention.
Urgent FLAG
Your health boundaries require honest discussion and mutual agreement.
WHY IT MATTERS
The impact matters more than the label.
Your health boundaries require honest discussion and mutual agreement. The severity depends on repetition, impact, his response to a boundary, and whether you feel free to make your own choices.
NEXT STEPS
- 01Prioritize immediate safety over getting the perfect explanation.
- 02Contact trusted support or qualified local services when safe.
- 03Avoid confronting him alone if doing so could increase danger.
SAFETY NOTE
This guide cannot assess immediate danger. If you feel unsafe, prioritize trusted local support and emergency services appropriate to your location. Avoid confronting someone alone when doing so could increase risk.
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