WATCH FOR
- —Whether the behavior repeats after you name it.
- —Whether he can discuss it without punishment or deflection.
- —Whether words and follow-through begin to match.
YELLOW FLAG · HONESTY
He gets defensive about simple questions— is that a red flag?
Use the pattern, impact, boundary response, and safety context—not one label—to decide what deserves attention.
Yellow FLAG
A defensive response can block normal clarity even when the question is fair.
WHY IT MATTERS
The impact matters more than the label.
A defensive response can block normal clarity even when the question is fair. The severity depends on repetition, impact, his response to a boundary, and whether you feel free to make your own choices.
NEXT STEPS
- 01Name the behavior plainly once.
- 02Set a specific boundary or request.
- 03Judge the next pattern, not the next promise.
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